Wishing for something you can’t get only leads to despair. Accepting what you can’t change helps you stay sane and find joy in adversity. We all want to be happy and wish for a life of wander, adventure, excitement, and joy, so when you accept that problems are part of life, the only thing you can focus on is creating high-quality problems.
You can only change the context in which you experience your problems. They will fundamentally stay the same, no matter what; you can’t completely remove them from your life.
I was so done with the rainy and cloudy weather in Belgium, so I moved to live in a tropical paradise. Then I had to deal with extreme heat and humidity (leave alone the mosquitoes).
Traveling is a wonderful experience, but it also comes with frustrations, such as language barriers, unfamiliar food, and transportation difficulties. Trust me, in 7 years of living a nomadic life, I have been frustrated countless times.
Living in amazing places is also filled with challenges. Dealing with the administration to obtain a work permit in Nepal or doing a residency in Paraguay was exhausting (actually, it was a nightmare!).
Being married is not always easy either.
And the list goes on!
But you see, all of the above are situations that I chose; I chose those problems! And although they are still “problems,” every time I feel frustrated, I remind myself: “This is my choice; I want to be here; I want to do that.”
You can always choose your inner stance.
One of my clients has a dream to climb to the top of Everest, and she has been preparing herself physically, mentally, and financially ((it costs more than 50K+!) for years. However, the journey to reach her goal has been filled with challenges and setbacks. Despite the constant effort, pain, and discipline required for intense training, she has persevered. The uncertainty of manifesting the necessary resources and doubts about whether her dream will ever come true have tested her more than once. But she hasn’t given up. Her commitment and determination to succeed are a true inspiration and n example of resilience. Though the path is far from easy, she has made a conscious choice to embrace all the problems that come with it, and that in itself is a remarkable accomplishment.